What is Wellbeing?

What is Wellbeing?

What is Wellbeing?

by Lisa Hunt-Wotton

You may have noticed that the tag line at Croydon Herbal Health is:

Your Wellbeing Matters

What is wellbeing?

It is more than happiness which can change with circumstances.  Nor is it about wealth or success.  To understand wellbeing we need to look at it holistically. Wellbeing incorporates body, mind and soul.  Wellbeing is a more stable state of being well.  I guess you could say that it is a sense of satisfaction and of being balanced.

Sometimes when you are discussing the definition of a word it helps to look at what it is not.

It is not:

  • Feeling unbalanced
  • Unwell
  • Stressed
  • Frustrated
  • Unhealthy
  • Unfulfilled
  • Unsatisfied

Well-being is more than just happiness. As well as feeling satisfied and happy, well-being means developing as a person, being fulfilled, and making a contribution to the community (Keyes).

In philosophy the term ‘well-being’ (and ‘welfare’) is used to refer to how well a person’s life goes for the person who lives it.

Wellbeing is not just the absence of disease or illness. It is a complex combination of a person’s physical, mental, emotional and social health factors. Wellbeing is strongly linked to happiness and life satisfaction. In short, wellbeing could be described as how you feel about yourself and your life (Reference).

How do we achieve a state of wellbeing.

  • Develop and maintain strong relationships with family and friends.
  • Make regular time available for social contact.
  • Try to find work that you find enjoyable and rewarding, rather than just working for the best pay.
  • Eat wholesome, nutritious foods.
  • Do regular physical activity.
  • Become involved in activities that interest you.
  • Join local organisations or clubs that appeal to you.
  • Set yourself achievable goals and work towards them.
  • Try to be optimistic and enjoy each day.
  • Develop relationship with a life coach like a naturopath who can help you to build a balanced lifestyle .

When you look at the two lists of what is ‘not wellbeing’ and what helps ‘achieve wellbeing’ you begin to see where balance comes in.  Each person has a set of resources. Each time an individual meets a challenge, the system of challenges and resources comes into a state of imbalance, as the individual is forced to adapt his or her resources to meet this particular challenge.

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In essence, stable wellbeing is when individuals have the psychological, social and physical resources they need to meet a particular psychological, social and/or physical challenge. When individuals have more challenges than resources, the see-saw dips, along with their wellbeing, and vice-versa (Reference).

There are things that you can do to help and there are people who can help you.  Monica is one of those people.  Her entire mission statement is to care about peoples wellbeing.  She can help you get your diet and health into a positive state.

If you feel like you need some encouragement, along with the suggestions listed above, maybe you could make an appointment to chat with Monica.  She is a brilliant coach and mentor in wellbeing.

Where to get help

  • Your doctor
  • Your naturopath
  • Family and friends
  • Counsellor
  • Lifeline Tel. 13 11 14
  • Kids Help Line Tel. 1800 551 800

 

Jocularity: a Therapeutic Cure to the Disease of Seriousity.

Jocularity: a Therapeutic Cure to the Disease of Seriousity.

Jocularity: a therapeutic cure to the disease of Seriousity.

by Janice Florent

Originally posted in the Australian Association of Family Therapy Newsletter

Volume 38 No.2: June 2016

The risk of a lack of humour might be graver. We might miss the opportunity to be curious, creative and observe alternative viewpoints. We risk seeming judgmental and rigid: the expert rather than person- centred. Imagine the poor client who tries to relieve their awkwardness with a little humour and is met with a therapist’s straight-faced nod of intensity. Without humour in our practice, we risk burnout and of course being cursed with seriousity.

Humour allows for playfulness; connecting to the inner child; can reduce anxiety; can help us to see the absurdity of situations. The ability to laugh at ourselves and our human frailty may perhaps allow us to be kind to ourselves, to forgive, to give permission to identify our strengths and opportunities for joy. Humour or jocularity is thus a powerful tool.

The question arises however whether humour truly is a tool or a stance? Do we use humour in a calculated way; prepare jokes or jocular responses? Moshe proposes that we should not ‘use’ humour that way, but rather cultivate humour as a state of mind. He likened humour to empathy, in that we don’t use empathy, we are simply empathic.

  • Humour, like empathy, requires authenticity. When we are authentic and attuned to our clients, we have an opportunity to respond to affect in a number of ways
  • to respond accurately, which supports therapeutic alliance;
  • to amplify or intensify, which will either support insight and awareness or misfire and increase distress; or
  • to de-intensify with the use of humour. This will either misfire and fracture the alliance or allow for brevity and therefore a well-timed lifting of a heavy burden.

 

A burden need not always be heavy. The burden of parenthood, the worry of raising children for example could be seen as the joy of watching children grow and explore the wonders of the world. We need not always be literal Moshe says, there is always another way of seeing things. Maybe the glass is not half empty after all? As Moshe stated, it is all in the interpretation; how language and its nuances can create different meanings.

Moshe shared his experience as a new migrant with formal English as his second language and the hilarity of misunderstanding ‘strine’. Like Nino Culotta in the book, “They’re a weird mob”, one man’s confusion is another man’s comedic genius. We can spend a session in complete confusion with our client due to language, with both parties failing to understand the intended meaning. Do we become frustrated and argumentative, or do we take a step back and laugh?

If we can learn to see the humour in life and figure out when lightness is appropriate we can revel in the jocularity of being part of the weird mob and thereby free ourselves from the constipation of the bowels of despair, otherwise known as seriousity.

Janice Florent

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